Signs That Prove You're *Still* Not Over Your Ex
To say that breakups are difficult would be an understatement. Moving past someone who once meant the world to you can have a great impact. Regardless of how smooth the breakup was, it’s okay to feel a tad bit hung up about your ex. What is not okay is drunk dialling them in the middle of the night or finding excuses to reach out to them all the time. If you’ve been finding yourself constantly thinking about your ex even though the relationship ended a year ago, we got news for you! Here are some sure-shot signs that prove that you’re still not over your ex.
You Talk About Them… A LOT!
We get that girls’ nights are meant for talking about the men we’ve dated, (among other things!), but it does not mean mentioning your ex every five minutes. If every tiny thing reminds you about your ex and you can’t help but bring them up, you need to stop and give this some serious thought.
You Try To Establish Contact... Constantly
We get that it’s not easy to let go of the attachment but finding new ways of reaching out to your ex or falling back to dialling them when you think you are in need, but it is not going to get you anywhere. If you really want to let go of the relationship, you need to cut off all contact with your ex and start afresh.
Some of us love saving the tickets of our first date with bae or flight tickets from a special getaway. There’s nothing wrong with that but going through it regularly after a painful breakup is only going to hurt you. “Looking at pictures, saving gifts only shows your inability to move on. It’s best to put it in a box and put it in the back of your closet,” says Sheelaa M Bajaj, relationship coach, and tarot card reader.
Everything Reminds You Of Them
If seeing someone where something remotely close reminds you of the time you bought your ex a similar gift, you’re clearly stuck in the past. “If you remember something from your past relationship and can’t help but feel a twinge of pain, it shows that the spiritual, emotional, and mental chord still exists,” says Bajaj.
You Resort To Stalking... Unadmittedly
We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again. Stalking your ex on social media through fake accounts is unhealthy and needs to stop. Keeping track of where your ex hangs out, who he spends time with, shows you’re still invested more than you should be. Focusing all your energy on your past doesn’t leave too much room for growth.
You Try To Make Them Jealous
Showing up with a date at one of their regular restaurants in an attempt to make them jealous just proves that you’re not over them, no matter how much you pretend you are! Trust us when we say that if the relationship meant as much to him as it does to you, he would’ve reached out to you.
It’s best to remember that the relationship ended for a reason. So, unless both you and your ex want to give it another shot for real, let go of the past and focus on the future instead.
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