Revive The Lost Sexual Spark With Your Spouse
According to a 2017 study published by the Department of Psychology, San Diego State University, people are having sex less frequently due to two primary factors – an increasing number of individuals without a steady or marital partner and a decline in sexual frequency among those with partners.
Married couples often experience decreased sexual intimacy which can be due to responsibilities, work pressure, health, and time away from spouses, young children, and lack of privacy. It’s common; however, it’s not something that cannot be dealt with.
We bring you ways you can amp up your bedroom drama:
1. Root Cause Analysis
You both need to sit down and pin down the ‘root cause’ of this declining intimacy in the bedroom. Pick out situations that don’t allow you your personal space and see how you can work around it. If having a young baby around is tiring you or leaving you with no time, figure out a way you can connect with after the baby is asleep. Or if your child is a schooler, plan after he/she is off to school.
Once in a while, take time off your busy schedule and engage with your spouse even if it means keeping certain things on hold. Now that you are locked down with each other, you don’t have any time restraints that cannot be worked out. Remember, where there is a will, there is always a way.
2. Focus on Outercourse
You’ve heard of intercourse, but what is outercourse, you ask? Outercourse is nothing but non-penetrative sexual activity. Gestures like touching, kissing, caressing, and hugging can all be a good starter. If you don’t want to jump right down to the business with your spouse, these are specific actions that can get you and your spouse in the mood. Little steps like slipping a note while they work or nudging them while your kids are busy watching cartoons can be a good segue from family time to personal time.
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3. Be The Initiator
Don’t wait for your spouse to make the first move, that’s too two thousand and late. Take the reins in your hands and dominate, pun intended. Some people are aroused to see their otherwise-submissive partners taking the lead, and this could be a great way to try new things. Initiate those naughty texts or images and gear them up for the actual time. It is essential for you to feel in control of the sex and revive the dying intimacy between the two of you. If an hour of fine wine and dine can help get you two in the mood, do it right away. Take charge and lead away!
4. Feel Confident
Feeling beautiful, sexy and confident is not just to please your spouse, it is also for your self-confidence. Invest time in looking good for yourself, buy the dress you wanted to but didn’t, spritz the perfume that made you feel alive, wear the lacy lingerie you’ve tucked away. Get confident and comfortable in your skin and see the magic unfold.
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